FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
I think my boss is a narcissist. How should I deal with this?
The term narcissist in psychiatry refers to a DSM personality disorder.
However, such a diagnosis says little about a person’s individuality or how he/she functions in an organization.
Within the framework of Context Thinking, a simpler explanation often applies: the manager is likely low-contextual.
Low-contextual thinking
Many managers who are perceived as "narcissistic" are in fact low-contextual.
- They think strongly in first-degree relations: if A, then B.
- This has advantages for a company: goal orientation, efficiency, clear decisions.
- At the same time, it has limitations: less sense of nuance, less perspective-taking, and a higher chance of misunderstandings in human relationships.
Coping mechanisms
A boss often develops coping strategies to deal with complex situations.
- He/she is usually unaware that these strategies mainly solve short-term problems but can be harmful to the team climate in the long run.
- Examples: excessive checking, avoiding emotional conversations, or making authoritarian decisions to compensate for insecurity
What does this mean for you?
- The behavior does not necessarily stem from "malice" or a personality disorder, but can be understood as a thinking style with both strengths and weaknesses.
- The label "narcissist" can be stigmatizing and sometimes obscures the real dynamics of context sensitivity.
Practical advice
- Communicate concretely and clearly. Avoid implicit hints or vague suggestions; explain what you mean.
- Acknowledge the strengths. Point out your boss’s efficiency or result orientation; this builds trust.
- Protect your own boundaries. Don’t get drawn into excessive caretaking.
- Add context where possible. Introduce nuance in conversations, offer alternative perspectives, and do this calmly and factually.
- Seek support. Discuss situations with colleagues or a trusted advisor, so you don’t get overburdened yourself.
Conclusion
Not every difficult boss is a "narcissist". More often it’s a case of low-contextual thinking: strong in clarity and action, but vulnerable to tunnel vision and relational misunderstandings. Understanding this allows you to align better, set more realistic expectations, and work together more constructively.
People with autism don’t lie, do they?
Many people see honesty as a typical feature of autism. It is true that people with autism often communicate literally and directly, but that doesn’t mean they never hide or adapt the truth. What matters is understanding why they do it.
Context blindness and truth
Autism is often associated with context blindness —
difficulty in grasping situations within their broader context.
While others spontaneously take into account subtle cues (the right nuance, the right timing),
a person with autism tends to focus mainly on factual accuracy or immediate outcomes.
- For them, “truth” is something concrete — what is literally seen or thought.
- As a result, statements that are factually correct may be socially inappropriate.
- Conversely, withholding or adjusting information may feel like a way to maintain peace, not necessarily as deceit.
Transactional and egocentric thinking
When a person with autism “lies”, it is often not out of malicious manipulation, but rather as a form of transactional behavior or egocentric thinking. The behavior can have a manipulative effect — it influences how others respond — but the underlying intent is usually practical or protective, not calculated.
Casus
A child with autism does not tell his father that the neighbor was aggressive. He thinks: “If I say that, I won’t be allowed to play at the neighbor’s house anymore.” The child manipulates information to protect an immediate need: maintaining calm and keeping access to the neighbor’s home (transactional behavior). In the long term, however, this creates other problems: the father may trust the child less, and an incident at the neighbor’s could have been prevented if the truth had been told.
So, is that lying?
Lying implies an intention to deceive and an awareness of its consequences. People with autism often lack that second component: they have limited awareness of broader context and long-term consequences. The behavior is therefore more a result of limited context integration than of moral unwillingness or a lack of honesty.
What helps in communication
- Ask clarifying questions instead of judging.
- Explain explicitly why truth or openness matters in that situation.
- Highlight consequences in both the short and long term, making context more visible.
- Acknowledge that “truth” has different layers — factual, social, and emotional.
Conclusion
People with autism may consciously adjust the truth to elicit a desired reaction or avoid tension —
that is, in a sense, manipulation, but not of the calculated or malicious kind.
It is a short-term strategy arising from limited contextual insight
and a need for order or predictability.
Understanding this can help reduce misunderstandings and rebuild trust.